Internalizations of Love and Hate

(main inspiration from Spinoza, other than that, this is completely idiosyncratic)

Of Love and Hate



Love and hate are born from mans most fundamental value, the preservation of life. It is through this value that the concepts of ‘good’ and ‘evil’ arise. The basic premise of these concepts, in a primitive sense is; life-furtherance and life threatening. If good is equitable with those things that further and persevere life, then it is also equitable with love because we love things that are good for our life or that we perceive good for it. Bad is therefore things that are bad for our life, and these things we call evil, and we hate evil things because they are a destruction of life. The emotional aspects of love and hate are, joy and sadness. Love itself causes the affect of joy, when we love something we experience joy from it. Hate causes the affect of sadness. Love and hate are both necessary conditions for us to build a system of morals because they formulate what is good and evil through our most fundamental value (preservation of life). We can now deduce that good and evil are the conceptual by-products (only thinking beings can conceive of good and evil) of what we term ‘love’ and ‘hate’, which are affections of the mind and they form emotional by-products, which are joy and sadness. From these by-products, certain affections like greed, envy, jealousy, vengeance etc. are formed. These are all affections caused when we love or hate external things. It is through this I have arrived to the paradigm that excesses of love are what cause all of our problems in life. An excess of love creates greed, pride, lust, and hate creates a reactionary drive (wrath, vengeance, and anger) that tries to eliminate the things that infringe on our love(s). The extremes of love and hate will always inflict us and they will always be detriments to social and individual harmony. The extremes cause the pursuit and overindulgence of desires and the problems that arise when we don’t reach those desires.




Excess of Love

All war and violence is the root cause of love. Love destroys things threatening the preservation of its own self or the thing that emits the joys one loves it for. The drive that initiates the acts of destruction is called hatred. Hatred now becomes a “good” thing, for it negates the existence of the things that are contrary to ones love(s). Love is now something that becomes an “evil” because it destroys things contrary to itself for the sake of itself. The only way love can survive is through hatred, which becomes the pivotal precursor to love. Even love of peace is something that needs a hatred for it to survive because to have peace one needs to destroy the very things that are interfering with peace and become contrary to it and therefore negating any idea of it. Now we can understand that love is a necessity of human nature and hate is a necessary drive, which destroys things that are threatening that love. Love is an affect that brings joy or a more perfected survival for humans and hate is sadness caused by external forces that interfere with that love. It is essential to have both affects working fully for the betterment of our survival. One can have an excess of love that causes even more destructive hate but one can also have an excess of hate that causes love for things that are contrary to that hate (the idea of constructive hate). Therefore we can derive that one has to hate certain things in order to be fully rational with their desires and hate itself has more reason than love does. One has to hate war to not start a war and so on. It is through hatred we can achieve peace, not through love. There are many paradoxes that exist with these terms that we have created for ourselves and it is only the fact that they are human concepts that they are not perfect. I am in no way saying that love is actually “evil” or “bad’, it is a necessity and the conceptualizations of them being good and bad are only the human concepts we have interpreted to them that does not give them any validity of their true essence but gives them more moral ambiguity, we therefore cannot place too much emphasis on their semblances. The externalization of these affects can now be seen for what they really are, but what happens when we love and hate ourselves?



Constructive and Destructive



Love and hate take on a different meaning and two derivatives are formed when we are viewing them from the self (internal) and away from external things (people/and things). When we say “I hate myself” or “I love myself” we view ourselves externally and put the sensations and reprimands of those words either negatively or positively within ourselves. This is the common ideology of the phrases, but there is a secret driving force that is working that seems to be hidden and misunderstood.

Odium Aedificant (Constructive Hate)

Ascent to Greatness

Think of why we become dissatisfied with something and wish to change it, that dissatisfaction creates a drive, which entails an action, this action changes a thing into what the person wants it to become, essentially this hate we feel for the thing at the present time allows us the drive to change the thing and form it into the desirable thing we want it to become in the future. This is what I call “constructive hate”; it is a conscious awareness and dislike of a particular thing that gives us a drive to change it. If we didn’t have this drive emitted by hate, we would see no faults with anything and everything would have the guise of being perfect, this is an absurd reality and if it were a true reality it would lead to our own destruction. We need the drive hatred creates to change the world and ourselves to something more suitable to our own desires and preferences.

If men didn’t hate themselves why would they constantly try to overcome themselves and become greater than what they are? Our desire and drive to do great things and gain more value within all facets of our lives, and our constant will to keep moving forward is in itself the embodiment of how much man hates himself and his current state. It is through mans secret hatred for himself that he achieves great things for himself and for others.

Man is constantly trying to find a reason to love himself; it is when he finds that love through a passage of hatred that he will be truly satisfied and worthy of himself. One must suffer in order to achieve the highest pleasures.

Destructiva Amoris (Destructive Love)

Descent from Greatness

For man to truly love himself, he will have to negate the greatness for which he has the potential of achieving. It is through love man finds no faults but only perfections. This is a state of vanity and is hazardous to mans duties and mind. From this love springs laziness and contempt. This type of love does not produce great men, it stifles progress and gives man a false sense of ideal into which he irrationally becomes enthralled with. When we love something we find perfection within the imperfection of the thing, this creates no drive to change, it is the acceptance of the current state and therefore it negates reaching ideals but is placed with an illusory ideal. Self-love in itself can garner many problems for the individual and it is bound to irrationalities.

Self-love is the crucial step for human fulfilment, it is the reward garnished by the fruitions of constructive hatred. It is through this, man can rationally and truly love himself. He has transcended the things he hates and reached the ideal, now the acceptance of the self can truly and rationally be achieved.

The Ideals

The ideals are placed upon all of us by certain pre-sets within our cultures, social ideologies and personal preferences. They are what we want ourselves to be. Every society and person has a different set of ideals. Ideals are not necessities of human nature; they are contingent to external forces. Everyone seeks for an ideal of himself or herself. All these ideals are virtuous.

The Two Types

There are two types of individual; both types feel a sense of hatred (constructive hate) for themselves. One uses the hatred as a drive to change themselves into what they want to become which is their ideal. Through virtues this individual becomes successful and gains value. The second type feels the hatred and tries to change but is mediocre and weak and therefore abandons the hardships of the change he is trying to manifest. This type brings forth suffering and destructive hatred unto himself and this is when uselessness and depravity manifest which lowers happiness and negatively affects his pursuit of fulfilment, which is the sole pursuit of everyone’s life. One has to have a great amount of hatred for themselves to improve themselves, it is the struggle of life itself, the final reward is love and this love is only available to those who have productively and rationally exhumed the hatred from within themselves.

Throughout all history love and hate have caused all the problems beguiled on mankind. They have caused war, suffering, violence, and death. It is now through our understanding of these conditions that we are aware how crucial they are to our development and preservation. It is only when we superfluously adhere ourselves to them, that they can destroy others and us. With this conclusion I would like to negate all presuppositions on the notions of hate being made some type of enemy we should exterminate and rid ourselves of. Hate is a necessity and it is only through hate we expunge evil itself. Both conditions elicit within us very powerful drives that construct the very foundations needed for our survival. We should all strive to facilitate reasoning and rationality every time we are presented with situations of love and hate and even with positions of good and evil, because in both instances, the outcome can either be for us or against us and it is not always what it seems to be.


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